Struggling

So this past week a son of a dear friend of mine passed away. I'm not sure what happened, but I guess what I'm struggling with is the fact that just a month or so ago her other son died too. I know that there is a life after this and that really this life is just a blip on the scope of the life we're really supposed to be living, but I look at my two boys and I wonder if I could ever do that. Bury my two boys. I guess the other thing I'm struggling with is what do I say to her, what can I offer? How do I as a human being even begin to empathize with her? I'm also struggling because I don't feel like I'm in a place emotionally and mentally to even offer support to my dear friend. I feel so at a loss of anything, like I'm void of all reason and understanding. I'm just struggling.